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What Does The Bible Say -

About Children?

After the Lord created man, He left instructions in a book called the BIBLE.  It wasn't onley a road map to heaven, but it was filled with instruceiont on how we were to conduct ourselves while here on earth.

 

Among many things it tells us how to raise our children, how to treat them, love them, teach them and how to make their lives better in this life.  Listed are a few scriptures that will help those who truly do love their children.

Here is a very good scripture to use from the very beginning of your baby's life:  ( Proverbs 22:6 - "Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it, )

 

In the beginning, before your child is born, you have to decide, do you want your baby to pattern it's life after you, or do you feel you are pleased with the way you have cared for yourself and conducted yourself?  If not, and you want your child to do better, make a change in your life.

You say your child or children are older now and you don't know what to do.  It is never too late to turn your life over to the lord.  He has been there all the time for you and your children.  ( John 3:16 - For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. )  God loved you so much that He sent His son, Jesus Christ, to die for you so you would have that blessed hope of making heven your home some day.

 

You can lead the way for your children by giving your life to Jesus.  He stands at your heart's door knocking in hopes that you will open up and let Him in.

Psalm 127 - This wise prayer falls into two related parts. The first stanza (vv. 1, 2) expresses the belief that human effort is useless apart from God (paralleling the message of Ecclesiastes), whether for building a house, defending a city, or earning a living. The second stanza (vv. 3–5) focuses on another meaning of building, that of raising children. Children are a gift from God.

 

 

A father could be supported during his old age by strong, young sons. Children were a fulfillment of the promise to Abraham that the chosen people would become a great and numerous nation (Gen. 12:1–3). The ultimate focus of the Abrahamic promise of many descendants is on Jesus Christ. In the present day the psalm expresses the joy of Christian parents as they reflect on God’s gift of children and His promise to them (Acts 2:39).

 

A child that is brought up to respect, honor and with the love of God in their heart, can and will be a blessing to their parents in their old age.  A child that is brought with abuse, no respect, care free, without responsibility, in and around drugs and alcohol has no respect for anyone, not even their parents.

 

When children are brought up in the way they should go, the way the Lord tells us in His instruction book, the Bible, they bring joy to their parents, grandparents and their family.  Not shame and dishonor. 

 

Here are some helpful verces in raising children:

 

Psalm 127:3

Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward.

 

Proverbs 22:6

Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.

 

Psalm 139:13-16

For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother's womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them.

 

John 16:21

When a woman is giving birth, she has sorrow because her hour has come, but when she has delivered the baby, she no longer remembers the anguish, for joy that a human being has been born into the world.

 

Isaiah 54:13

All your children shall be taught by the Lord, and great shall be the peace of your children

 

Matthew 18:1-3

At that time the disciples came to Jesus, saying, “Who is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?” And calling to him a child, he put him in the midst of them and said, “Truly, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven.

 

Matthew 18:10

“See that you do not despise one of these little ones. For I tell you that in heaven their angels always see the face of my Father who is in heaven.

 

Psalm 127:1-5

A Song of Ascents. Of Solomon. Unless the Lord builds the house, those who build it labor in vain. Unless the Lord watches over the city, the watchman stays awake in vain. It is in vain that you rise up early and go late to rest, eating the bread of anxious toil; for he gives to his beloved sleep. Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one's youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.

The 6th Commandment says, Thou Shall Not Kill.  We hear all the time on the radio, TV, read in the paper or hear it by word of mough how a child is found in a dumpster, garbage can or dump site.  They had been abused, killed and was disposed of.

 

The Lord tells us in His word that we are not to kill, and that is true in His word and it is also man's law.  If we do, we will go away for a very long time, or be put to death with leathel injection.  We just don't do those things and expect to get away with it.  Not in this life or the one to come.

According to the Bible, there are other ways to kill someone other than phically.  ( Matthew 18:6 -But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea. )  The key word here is, OFFEND."

 

My book is full of ways to kill a child other than taking their life.   Early abuse to a child contributes to virtually all types of mental illness.  In a large study to use brain scans show the effects of child abuse.  It has been found that specific changes in key regions in and around the hippocampus in the brains of young people that was maltreated or neglected in childhood. These changes leave victims more vulnerable to depression, addiction and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), according to the study.

 

Children are killed inwordley when they are abused, neglected, sexualy abused, mentaly abused and grow up in such invorments.  They feel confused, ugly, worthless, depressed, and dead all rolled up in one.  Some feel like and do take their own lives to be rid of these terrable feeling they have bottled up inside themselves.

 

What Does the Bible Say?

 

Exodus 20:13

“You shall not murder.

 

Exodus 23:7 

Keep far from a false charge, and do not kill the innocent and righteous, for I will not acquit the wicked.

Here are some helpful verces in raising childreh:

Ephesians 6:4

Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

To “provoke . . . to anger” suggests a repeated, ongoing pattern of treatment that gradually builds up a deep–seated anger and resentment that boils over in outward hostility.

 

Such treatment is usually not intended to provoke anger. Here are eight ways in which parents can provoke their children to anger:

1)    Well–meaning overprotection is a common cause of resentment in children. Parents who smother their children, overly restrict where they can go and what they can do, never trust them to do things on their own, and continually question their judgment build a barrier between themselves and their children—usually under the delusion that they are building a closer relationship. Children need careful guidance and certain restrictions, but they are individual human beings in their own right and must learn to make decisions on their own, commensurate with their age and maturity. Their wills can be guided but they cannot be controlled.

2)    Another common cause of provoking children to anger is favoritism. Isaac favored Esau over Jacob and Rebekah preferred Jacob over Esau. That dual and conflicting favoritism not only caused great trouble for the immediate family but has continued to have repercussions in the conflicts between the descendants of Jacob and Esau until our present day! For parents to compare their children with each other, especially in the children’s presence, can be devastating to the child who is less talented or favored. He will tend to become discouraged, resentful, withdrawn, and bitter.

 

Favoritism by parents generally leads to favoritism among the children themselves, who pick up the practice from their parents. They will favor one brother or sister over the others and will often favor one parent over the other.

3)    A third way parents provoke their children is by pushing achievement beyond reasonable bounds. A child can be so pressured to achieve that he is virtually destroyed. He quickly learns that nothing he does is sufficient to please his parents. No sooner does he accomplish one goal than he is challenged to accomplish something better. Fathers who fantasize their own achievements through the athletic skills of their sons, or mothers who fantasize a glamorous career through the lives of their daughters prostitute their responsibility as parents.

4)    A fourth way children are provoked is by discouragement. A child who is never complimented or encouraged by his parents is destined for trouble. If he is always told what is wrong with him and never what is right, he will soon lose hope and become convinced that he is incapable of doing anything right. At that point he has no reason even to try. Parents can always find something that a child genuinely does well, and they should show appreciation for it. A child needs approval and encouragement in things that are good every bit as much as he needs correction in things that are not.

I once visited a young woman who was confined to a padded cell and was in a state of catatonic shock. She was a Christian and had been raised in a Christian family, but her mother had ceaselessly pushed her to be the most popular, beautiful, and successful girl in school. She became head cheerleader, homecoming queen, and later a model. But the pressure to excel became too great and she had a complete  mental collapse. After she was eventually released from the  hospital, she went back  to the  same artificial and  demanding environment. 

When again she found she could not cope, she committed suicide. She had summed up her frustration when she told me one day, “I don’t care what it is I do, it never satisfies my mother.”

5)  A fifth way provocation occurs is by parents’ failing to sacrifice for their children and making them feel unwanted. Children who are made to feel that they are an intrusion, that they are always in the way and interfere with the plans and happiness of the parents, cannot help becoming resentful. To such children the parents themselves will eventually become unwanted and an intrusion on the children’s plans and happiness.

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6)    A sixth form of provocation comes from failing to let children grow up at a normal pace. Chiding them for always acting childish, even when what they do is perfectly normal and harmless, does not contribute to their maturity but rather helps confirm them in their childishness.

7)    A seventh way of angering children is that of using love as a tool of reward or punishment—granting it when a child is good and withdrawing it when he is bad. Often the practice is unconscious, but a child can sense if a parent cares for him less when is he disobedient than when he behaves. That is not how God loves and is not the way he intends human parents to love. God disciplines His children just as much out of love as He blesses them. “Those whom the Lord loves He disciplines” (Heb. 12:6). Because it is so easy to punish out of anger and resentment, parents should take special care to let their children know they love them when discipline is given.

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8)    An eighth way to provoke children is by physical and verbal abuse. Battered children are a growing tragedy today. Even Christian parents—fathers especially—sometimes overreact and spank their children much harder than necessary. Proper physical discipline is not a matter of exerting superior authority and strength, but of correcting in love and reasonableness. Children are also abused verbally. A parent can as easily overpower a child with words as with physical force. Putting him down with superior arguments or sarcasm can inflict serious harm, and provokes him to anger and resentment. It is amazing that we sometimes say things to our children that we would not think of saying to anyone else—for fear of ruining our reputation!

In closing, consider the confession of one Christian father,

My family’s all grown and the kids are all gone. But if I had to do it all over again, this is what I would do. I would love my wife more in front of my children. I would laugh with my children more—at our mistakes and our joys. I would listen more, even to the littlest child. I would be more honest about my own weaknesses, never pretending perfection. I would pray differently for my family; instead of focusing on them, I’d focus on me. I would do more things together with my children. I would encourage them more and bestow more praise. I would pay more attention to little things, like deeds and words of thoughtfulness. And then, finally, if I had to do it all over again, I would share God more intimately with my family; every ordinary thing that happened in every ordinary day I would use to direct them to God.

Proverbs 29:15

The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.

For the past fifty years, too many social do-gooders and atheistic activists have done their best to remove everything biblical and Christian out of the public school systems and out of society in general. They have filled the minds of millions of people that it’s wrong to discipline your kids when they misbehave as it ruins their self-esteem. You can’t flunk a child in school because it ruins their self esteem. You don’t tell them no, because it ruins their self esteem.

A generation later, we have a society of spoiled kids who expect everything to be handed to them on a silver platter. Case in point was a recent lawsuit filed in Barrington Hills, Illinois by two grown children, ages 20 and 23, against their mother for ‘bad mothering.’ Barrington Hills is a wealthy suburb of Chicago, and the family in question lived in a $1.5 million dollar home.

 

 

According to court documents, the complaints listed by the adult children include:

  • Failing to buy toys when requested by the child

  • Sending a birthday card the child didn’t like

  • Not taking the daughter to a car show

  • Telling the 7 year old son to buckle his seat belt or she would contact police

  • Haggling over the amount of money spent on party dresses

  • Calling the daughter at midnight to ask her to come home.

 

Fortunately, Cook County Judge Kathy Flanagan dismissed the case.

In our godless society, kids are being taught it’s all about them. They are what’s important. It’s the ‘me’ syndrome. It’s all about ME!

This frivolous lawsuit and the general actions of youth today are a testimony to what the Bible teaches about training and discipline;

 

  • On the lips of him who has understanding, wisdom is found, but a rod is for the back of him who lacks sense. Proverbs 10:13

  • Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him. Proverbs 13:24

  • Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far from him. Proverbs 22:15

  • Apply your heart to instruction and your ear to words of knowledge. Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die. If you strike him with the rod, you will save his soul from Sheol.   Proverbs 23:12-14

 

The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother. Proverbs 29:15

 

It’s time we return to biblical discipline that is carried out in love, not anger. You don’t beat the child, you spank them and you do it in such a way as teach them wrong from right. And then follow it up with love to let them know why you did and that that you love them and want them to grow in the ways of the Lord.


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