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Child Neglect

Suffer The Little Children

Child Abuse

Child neglect depends on how a child and society perceives the parents’ behavior; it is not how the parent believes they are behaving towards their child. [full citation needed] Parental failure to provide when options are available is different from failure to provide when options are not available. Poverty is often an issue and leads parents to not being able to provide. The circumstances and intentionality must be examined before defining behavior as neglectful.

 

Child neglect is the most frequent type of abuse of children, with children that are born to young mothers at a substantial risk for neglect. In 2008, the U.S. state and local child protective services received 3.3 million reports of children being abused or neglected. Seventy-one percent of the children were classified as victims of child neglect ("Child Abuse & Neglect"). Maltreated children/youth were about five times more likely to have a first emergency department presentation for suicide-related behavior compared to their peers, in both boys and girls.

 

Children/youth permanently removed from their parental home because of substantiated child maltreatment are at an increased risk of a first presentation to the emergency department for suicide-related behavior. Neglected children are at risk of developing lifelong social, emotional and health problems, particularly if neglected before the age of two years.

..the persistent failure to meet a child's basic physical and/or psychological needs, likely to result in the serious impairment of the child's health or development. Neglect may occur during pregnancy as a result of maternal substance abuse. Once a child is born, neglect may involve a parent or carer failing to provide adequate food, clothing and shelter (including exclusion from home or abandonment); protect a child from physical and emotional harm or danger; ensure adequate supervision (including the use of inadequate care-givers); or ensure access to appropriate medical care or treatment. It may also include neglect of, or unresponsiveness to, a child's basic emotional needs.

Child neglect (also called psychological abuse) is commonly defined as a failure by a child's caretaker to meet a child's physical, emotional, educational, or medical needs.  Forms of child neglect include: Allowing the child to witness violence or severe abuse between parents or adult, ignoring, insulting, or threatening the child with violence, not providing the child with a safe environment and adult emotional support, and showing reckless disregard for the child's well-being.

 

Other definitions of child neglect are:

  • "a form of child abuse caused by the denial of basic requirements like correct nutrition, care, and love", per wiktionary.

  • "the failure of a person responsible for a child's care and upbringing to safeguard the child's emotional and physical health and general well-being" per Webster's New World Law Dictionary[10]

  • "Acts of omission: failure to provide for a child's basic physical, emotional, or educational needs or to protect a child from harm or potential harm. [...] harm to a child may or may not be the intended consequence. Failure to provide [results in] physical neglect, emotional neglect, medical/dental neglect, educational neglect. The failure to supervise [results in] inadequate supervision, exposure to violent environments." per the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention[11]

  • "the persistent failure to meet a child's basic physical and/or psychological needs resulting in serious impairment of health and/or development".

 

The definition of child neglect is broad. There are no specific guidelines that determine when a child is being neglected; therefore, it is up to state government agencies and professional groups to determine what is considered neglect.[13]:13 In general, child neglect is considered the failure of parents or caregivers to meet the needs that are necessary for the mental, physical, and emotional development of a child.

 

Child neglect is one of the most common forms of child maltreatment, and it continues to be a serious problem for many children. Child neglect tremendously affects the physical development, mental development, and emotional development of a child causing long term consequences, such as poor academic achievement, depression (mood), and character disorders. These consequences also impact society, since it is more likely that children who suffered from child neglect will have drug abuse problems and educational failure when they grow up.[citation needed]

General symptoms of Child Neglect:

Certain general symptoms that may suggest that a child is experiencing some type of abuse or neglect include:

1.  Slower-than-normal development. The child does not show the abilities and skills normally found in other children the same age, such as starting to talk or socialize with others. Some children regress, which means they slip backward, losing skills they had before.

 

2.  Failure to thrive. This is a term that means the child isn't gaining weight or height the way he or she should. Although this can be caused by a medical problem, it can also be a sign that the child is not being well cared for.

 

3.  Unusual interaction with a parent. The parent may not be interested in the child. Or the child may be constantly trying not to upset the parent. The child may actually be afraid of the parent.

 

4.  Mental health problems, such as having low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, or thoughts of suicide.

 

5.  Suddenly getting lower grades in school.

 

6.  Behaving in a way that isn't appropriate or that causes problems. In a young child, this could mean being unusually fussy, being afraid, or not being interested in activities. Children often act out what they have seen or experienced, such as violence or sexual activity. Older children may act out in unusual ways, such as having sex, fighting, using drugs, or running away.

Medical neglect is when the caregiver fails to provide needed medical care, either by delaying or outright denying the child the opportunity for treatment. There's a religious exception to this rule in some states. For example, in California, a caregiver can withhold medical care from their sick child and have a priest pray for recovery, and the caregiver would likely not be guilty of neglect -- though courts frequently order medical care in such cases.

What You Can Do. . .

 

If you are a witness to neglect or are aware of ongoing neglect, then you should report the neglect to your local child services authority. In eighteen states, including New Jersey, if you witness or suspect neglect then you are required by law to report the neglect, no matter your profession. If you don't report the neglect, you could be found guilty of a misdemeanor. Remember, you won't get into legal trouble if you report neglect in a case where it's later found that there wasn't neglect, as long as you reported neglect with positive intentions and if there was at least some evidence that neglect was occurring.

State Law Differences

 

Depending on your state, the applicable laws may vary considerably. In some states, neglect is a separate crime to abuse, though in most other states it's considered part of child abuse. The differences extend to exemptions, too. Many states have exemptions for religion - if a parent fails to provide medical care to his or her child because of their religious belief, then they will not be found guilty of neglect. In Pennsylvania, the law goes even further: extreme poverty will exempt a parent of responsibility for neglect.

Getting Help

 

Child neglect is a serious issue, perhaps the most serious of the child mistreatment offenses given how widespread and common it is. Reporting neglect is critical to the process of helping neglected children escape these negative situations. Please contact local child services authorities if you suspect a situation of neglect.

Different Forms of Neglect

Child neglect can come in many different forms. Below, you'll find explanations of the most common types of neglect.

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Physical Neglect

Physical neglect is the most common form of neglect, and it involves the failure of a caregiver to provide for the basic physical needs of the child, such as food, shelter, clothing, and even sanitary living conditions. A person can also be found guilty of neglect if he or she abandons the child or fails to properly supervise the child over an extended period of time (usually a matter of days or weeks).

Educational Neglect

Educational neglect occurs when the caregiver doesn't enroll the child in school or otherwise encourages or allows the child to not attend school. Educational neglect may be more common among poor families who may want the child to bring in additional income instead of attending school.

Psychological/emotional neglect is a bit of a catchall category, and includes a wide variety of behaviors, such as humiliation, insult, failure to provide psychological care, having a lack of affection, ignoring the child's basic attention needs, and threatening  serious  punishment.  Many  of  these  behaviors  can be difficult to track

 

Emotional Neglect

because they're simply more extreme versions of behaviors frustrated parents occasionally practice. On the other hand, there are instances of psychological/emotional neglect, such as isolating behavior (not allowing the child to form relationships with other children and adults) and allowing or encouraging the child to use drugs and alcohol, that are more obvious.

Medical Neglect

Child neglect is a form of child maltreatment, a deficit in meeting a child's basic needs including the failure to provide basic physical, health care, supervision, nutrition, emotional, education and/or safe housing needs. Society generally believes there are necessary behaviors a caregiver must provide a child in order for the child to develop physically, socially, and emotionally. Causes of neglect may be from any of several parenting problems include mental health, substance use, domestic violence, unemployment, unplanned pregnancy, single parenting, and poverty.

There is another form of child neglect that never seems to be mentioned, maybe because it isn't against the law not to love a child.  Just so long as a child has food to eat, a roofe over their head and clothing to wear their good to go.

 

Can you immagin being a child and never having someone to give you a hug, a peck on the cheak and tell you how much your loved.  Even the dogs get a pat on the head with a few kind words said to it.

Will someone please give me a hug, a peck on the cheek and tell me you love me.

You would be suprised to know how many children there are who has never hear the words, "I Love You."   I like what Tahera Kassamali has to say about the need to be loved.

A Child’s need for Love and their Self-esteem

Hatred stirreth up strifes: but love covereth all sins.  Proverbs 10:12

The need to be loved is exceptionally strong in all human beings. From childhood to old age, humans want to be loved by those around them. Love connects people in the strongest of ways. It produces care and concern, without which no one would take the responsibility of looking after others. Love makes the difficulties of life bearable, and helps ease the struggles of life. The love given to a child is more important than any material goods the family can provide.

 

Life cannot just run on cold and hard rules. The warmth of love is necessary to infuse spirit and joy in life. A home without love, however orderly and organized, has not fulfilled its true purpose. A family is not just a micro-organization where the needs of members are met. This could be done by a state run facility. A family’s outstanding characteristic is that members love one another, and this emotion binds them together.

Love or the lack of it has a profound effect on the lives of children. Their mental capabilities, their fluency of speech, their observations and deductions on life, are all affected by it. That is why we emphasizes the display of love to one’s family.  This man loved his grandsons dearly, and often showed great affection to them in public.


He could not bear to see his grandsons cry, or get hurt. He encouraged his companion to show affection to their children.

Effects of Love

A child who knows he is loved has a great head start on life.

1. He is happier and calmer. A child who is loved is at peace with the world, and is able to bear disappointments better. Without love, a child’s world is bleak. Such a child often resorts to misbehavior to get attention.

2. He is more confident of himself. He knows that he is worthy of being loved, and that is a great boost to his self-esteem.

3. He can form better relationships with others. A loving relationship with the parents makes the child a kinder, more loving person. Lack of love hardens the heart, and he could become less prone to showing love for others.

4. Has a positive outlook on life. A child who is loved looks at the world with enthusiasm He will be eager to try and experience new things. A loveless home produces a negative outlook, in which the natural curiosity and interest in life is deadened.

5. The child will be more responsive to what parents tell him. Reproaches and scoldings become bearable when he knows he is loved. Parental orders are followed with more enthusiasm.

Letting the child know they are loved

It goes without saying that most parents love their children dearly.  It is a natural instinct placed by the Lord into the heart of all parents. This love for children is a sign of the wisdom of Jesus, for without it no parent would have borne all the pains and troubles of raising a child. However, many parents think that children know, without being told, that parents love them. They do not realize that children need to be reassured constantly. The effects of love must be evident in the speech and behavior of the parents. Children do not have the wisdom and insight of adults to realize that even punishments and reproaches are signs of love. They often perceive the actions of the parents as a proof of the lack of love. It is thus very important to display love to the child, or at least inform him about it in subtle ways.


The display of love varies with the age and level of the child. It is most important at the very young age when children need to be cuddled and hugged. For a baby, physical display of love is necessary for positive growth and development. All through the toddler years physical affection remains the most prominent way of displaying love. As the child grows, this changes to less direct ways of showing affection. The occasional physical touch is still necessary, but is not the main way of showing love. Now the child has various needs and desires. 

To be considerate of his desires, talking to him constantly, reading to him, taking interest in his schoolwork etc. are all part of love. Love shows its bright face in the form of a smile, a tender tone, a patient ear, etc. A parent’s full attention tells the child he is loved enough to warrant it.

 

The older child has friends who are every important to him. To give importance to his friends is a good way of displaying love for him. Generally speaking, when a parent gives positive attention to the child, apart from the regular chores of bathing, feeding, etc. the child understands that he is loved.

The love of a mother

There is no doubt that the love of a mother is a very special gift from God for a child. It differs from the love of a father, or the love of any other person. The tender hand of a mother and her soothing voice has calmed many a troubled child. Mothers are thus the main instruments of transmitting love to the child. At its best, the love of a mother is completely unselfish, wanting nothing in return for the tremendous amounts of time and energy spent in raising the children.

From the time of birth, when a child knows the mother as a source of food and comfort, and all through childhood, the mother is the main caregiver for the child. The atmosphere at home depends on the nature of the mother. A loving, caring mother can do a great deal to make her family a happy and emotionally healthy family.

Unconditional Love
Some parents only love their children if they fulfill certain expectations. Gender sometimes plays a great role. So a boy after a few daughters elicits great affection and attention. Some families just prefer boys, even if they have equal numbers of both. Such gender biases shousd be condemned in every family. 


Some parents only show their love for the child if he or she is attractive, behaves well, and generally lives up to their expectations. Such a love is conditional.

If the child brings a good report card home, he or she is showered with praise and affection.  A bad report card will not only bring reproach for the low marks, but will make the child feel completely rejected. Parents often forget that it is only a particular act that should be condemned, not the child in general. A child who obeys is praised for their obedience, but loved for themself.  In the same way, a child who is disobedient is reproached for his disobedience, but still loved for themself.

Parents 'should be prosecuted for

Not loving or ignoring their children'

 

Parents who deliberately starve their children of love and affection could be guilty of a criminal offence under new plans to be put before MPs.

 

A proposed change to the child neglect laws would make “emotional abuse” of a child a crime for the first time, alongside physical or sexual harm.

 

Mark Williams, the Liberal Democrat MP, is leading the calls for Britain’s “Dickensian” child neglect laws to be updated, ending an anomaly which means that it is crime to inflict psychological abuse on adults but not children.

 

Although social workers, who operate under a different legal framework, can already step in to begin care proceedings if a child is being emotionally mistreated, the police cannot.

 

This is because in criminal law only physical deprivation, such as denying children food or clothes, counts as neglect.

 

Mr William is bringing forward a bill in the Commons, with the backing of the charity Action for Children, to amend the Children and Young Persons Act to bring the two definitions into line.

 

“It cannot be right that today, our criminal definition of child neglect remains rooted in the Dickensian age, in the laws passed during the reign of Queen Victoria,” he said.

 

“An old law doesn’t necessarily mean a bad one if it remains effective, but in this case the legislation is woefully out of date and in need of reform.”

 

It would mean that for the first time parents could be guilty of a crime by subjecting children to sustained humiliation, refusing to speak to them, isolating them or constantly making them a scapegoat.

 

But Mr Williams, a former teacher, insisted that the intention was not to criminalise discipline or target parents who are incapable, for their own reasons, of expressing love.

 

He cited the example of a young boy whose stepfamily treated him in a similar way to that inflicted on Cinderella in the fairy story.

 

“In one case, an individual child was openly told by his stepfather that he was hated; he was forced to go to bed before his siblings at 6.30pm, and regularly wet his bed because his room was not lit, to the extent that maggots were found in the mattress.

 

“He was given different food to the rest of the family, he had to get his own breakfast before everyone else.

“He was not invited to his mother and stepfather's wedding, even though his siblings were.”

 

Mr Williams’s move follows a report by Baroness Butler-Sloss, the former president of the High Court Family Division, which also highlighted anomalies in the way the law of neglect is currently applied.

 

A study by Action for Children found wide variations between different areas in the prosecution rate for neglect because of a lack of clarity.

 

In some cases it can come down simply to the "personality" and opinion of the individual police officer to decide whether or not to intervene, it found.

 

“As one officer put it, neglect can only be acted upon when it has led to physical harm ‘like an accident or a child burning itself’,” said Mr Williams.

 

“As another officer put it, ‘People are frightened to use that label because of a lack of understanding of what it is’.”

He added: “Severe emotional harm is one of the most serious forms of abuse in its own right, but we have also seen cases that lead to physical abuse and in the most extreme cases, lead to the death of a child.

 

“The cases of Victoria Climbie, Peter Connelly and many others show that prior to physical abuse children often experience prolonged serious neglect.

 

“The alternative offence aims to enable action to be taken by those agencies responsible for safeguarding children at an earlier stage.”

Many parents fail to draw the line and make their love conditional to the acts of the child. All children have faults, and the parental reaction to these faults sometimes convinces a child that they are not loved at all. It is necessary that parents ensure that the child understands it is only their act that is disliked and not themself.  A child deserves the unconditional love of the parents.

Excessive Love
A potential danger for many parents is excessive love for the children.  It is often difficult to control the intensity of emotion one feels for a child.  Thus a child may be showered with a lot of love, often misdirected.  Everything in excess is harmful, and too much love is detrimental to the child.  The worst of parents are those who transgress the limits in their love and goodness to their children.


Excessive love is when a parent pampers the child, refusing to let him face any trouble or difficulty, tending to his every need, and giving in to his desires. Its results could include:


1 -The child becomes totally reliant on the parents. Even as he grows, the chances of emotional and mental maturity are slim. He has less courage and feels offended easily. He becomes more like a soft egg which needs constant protection.


2 - The demands of the child who is excessively loved are unending. He will constantly want more – more attention, more treats, more toys etc. When refused or frustrated, he will resort to whining and complaining.


3 - He may become very egoistic, and expect the same degree of attention from others in his life. The child feels that he is the center of the world for his parents, and thus all things should revolve around him. He believes he has no faults, or at least none that others can perceive. This elevated perception of himself often lands him in trouble, especially when others do not see him in the same way.


4 - When others will not give him the same attention and pampering he has known from his parents, he will be unable to bear the disappointment. Often such people lose confidence in themselves, and feel they are not worth much as they have not been granted the degree of attention they believe is their due.

Wise Words
1. Kiss your children often, for every display of affection will raise your status with your child.
2. The Lord has mercy on a parent who loves their child greatly.

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